Learn to resolve feelings of self-doubt
and the sense of being a fraud
Learn to resolve feelings of self-doubt and the sense of being a fraud
Many of us rationally know we are good at what we do, but emotionally still feel like a fraud. We constantly fear we will be found out and exposed as the impostors that we are.
We do understand how other people see us. They might even give us praise and good feedback for our work. But this doesn't really help, because they don't know how insecure and incompetent we really feel and how much we had to work in order to get the job done.
Even when we succeed, we don't see it as proof that we are competent or talented. Instead, we attribute our success to luck, hard work, being at the right place at the right time, etc.
In psychology this is known as Impostor Syndrome or Impostor Phenomenon.
Even though this is often referred to as a "syndrome", it is not a clinical diagnosis. In fact, when we experience symptoms of Impostor Syndrome, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with us. We are reacting in a healthy way to our situation. The only trouble is, we have not yet learned how to relate to these emotions in a constructive way.
To resolve these emotions, we need to understand them
The emotions related to Impostor Syndrome are not at all random. There is a good reason why we feel how we feel, and understanding these emotions makes a big difference.
When we understand why we are experiencing self-doubt and a fear of being exposed as a fraud, these fears and doubts either lessen or even completely resolve.
Generic advice on how to cope with Impostor Syndrome is usually not enough. For these emotions to resolve, you need to find out what exactly is making you react the way you do.
Finding out these subconscious beliefs and triggers can seem difficult. And, if we try to do it on our own, it really is quite a challenge. This is because for most everybody, these beliefs are in a blind spot. We simply can not see them without some help and support.
With proper guidance, the process of noticing these beliefs becomes simple and very gentle.
The way to make the process easy, is to base this exploration on self-compassion.
I have helped countless people to uncover hidden beliefs and resolve difficult emotions by simply tuning into their natural sense of self-compassion. If you suspect you might be suffering from the effects of Impostor Syndrome, I highly recommend giving it a try.
To do so, please book a private session, and I will gently guide you through the whole process.
I am confident you will have more clarity and a better understanding of your emotions already after your first session.
P.S. With this process you can feel confident and stop feeling like a fraud in just a few weeks, without having to become any better at your profession. From then on, you no longer have to worry about being exposed as an impostor. There is simply no need to pretend or convince anyone of anything, because you already know and feel how talented and valuable you are.
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